Happy Birthday Mum...(belated)

Mum at about 2 and a half

I wanted to wish my mum a very happy birthday. Her birthday was last weekend and she turned 70. We are really looking forward to getting over to England to celebrate! It's not always easy to live so much of your life away from your family, and especially from your mother. Mum and I have always been close, despite differences and all the ups and downs that are part of a mother/daughter relationship. Mum has always been a formidable force within our family. We had difficult times, but she always managed to keep things together. Growing up, things were far from perfect and we all had our troubles, as did mum and dad. But I have many funny, poignant, beautiful, memories of growing up. And mum was the architect behind so many of those memories. And as time has moved on, mum has consistently tried to be there for us (and is still there). A safe place to return to when the rigours of life prove too much. She is always ready to give a warm hug and share a good laugh.

Mum on the left at about 12 years old

Seventeen years ago I came across to Vancouver, not really intending to stay for the long-term, but staying nonetheless. And although I have made a life here, there is another life in England that I never forget and I have a sense of belonging to two places. Sometimes I get the feeling that I've missed out on that other life. I suppose the fact is that for many choices, there are sacrifices that have to be made.

Mum, with a startled River, during our last visit.

Over the past years we have not seen each other very much. The last time I went over was with River, 3 years ago. Money is often tight for us (we made the choice to live on one income) and we cannot go over for a visit every year. Yet always, as I live my life, there is the deep knowledge of what I am missing, what we have all missed. All the day to day things that fill in the details of our lives. There is a gap that cannot be bridged. But we always try and we always remain connected. And we carry all that we love and miss in our hearts so that, in some ways, the connection is made more precious. I know mum misses us, and especially the kids and I hope we can all go over next year as a family. But for now, happy birthday mum. We love you and we will see you soon. xx